Introduction:

 

Even though it is an uneasy situation for family members, the family feud is a minor issue of society because it is kept from spreading outside. However, if the issue is lasting, children of these families may be emotionally affected. Vipassana meditation practice may help to appease conflicts, re-establish happiness in the family to prevent the harmful effect on children.

Worrying about the emotional aspect of children and the desire to live in a happy family may turn on to be a right and strong motivation for Vipassana practice.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Principle and mechanisms of action 

 

Use the principle instructed on an airplane when the oxygen mask dropped in front of your face: “ help yourself first before helping others”.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Try to install real happiness and peacefulness in your mind first before caring for other. Happiness and peacefulness in your mind will circulate in the family and cool down the companion's aversion. In an ideal scenario, both members of the couple agree and plan to practice Vipassana meditation together. However, only one member who has a right motivation and practices it diligently may be more or less sufficient to bring about peaceful life in the family.

Upon getting to stage 3 of mind development, meditator may:

 

- Be mindful soon enough to recognize the hostile, hatred reaction of the mind in response to an unwanted attitude or behavior of the companion. Only may the recognition of the mind reaction put a stoppage on the development of more hostile reactions and the arising of the intention of actions.

-  Realize that the mind reaction is only an effect of a cause. The effect has been learned in the past, it is a natural activity of the brain. It arises and goes.These abilities come from the development of the "understanding" and the "right view."

The activities of recognizing, understanding, right thinking will consume the energy that the body used to supply to reinforce the hatred reaction of the mind. Short of energy, the hatred mind reaction will gradually fade. A peaceful feeling infiltrates in mind. This is different from using distraction, trying to contain the anger, pushing it to the back of the mind, The anger is still there, working in the back of the mind, creating an unrest, uncomfortable, unpleasant feeling. The hatred reaction of mind, even covered is still read, perceived by other, builds up a formless wall preventing two persons to communicate in a normal way.

 

Conclusion:

Understanding by words is only a very first step. Cultivating self for the mind to accept, absorb into the understanding requires a diligent effort and right motivation. Family feud, an unwanted condition, may turn on to become a favorable opportunity and strong motivation for Vipassana meditation practice that opens the door to the path of real happiness. The outcome of the practice may positively affect not only the emotion and spirit of the couple but also of their children.

 

 

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